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Saturday, October 17, 2009

Too Good To Be True?

I have shared here before my interest in the Duggars and Jon and Kate and their shows. I have also admitted to thinking the Duggars were just too far out of the norm(IE: too nice, too good to be true) and that I thought Jon and Kate with their yelling at each other and whiny kids were much more realistic.

Why is it so hard to believe that a family can actually have many kids, raise them wholesomely and the result be genuinely nice, good kids? Is it really that rare any more?

Watching the news, TV and Hollywood movies these days, one would have to think it is rare, even "weird" to be a modest, nice, well behaved family who loves and respects God and each other.

When teens can so callously light another child on fire for $40 bucks, a video game or bike or whatever it was, then reportedly LAUGH about it, it is clear we really do live in a sick, sad and pathetic world. This one hit too close to home for me, as my son was recently burned over most of his lower back(quite by accident, see sidebar for links to posts if interested) I know my son will carry the physical scars of this burn for the rest of his life. I know over a year later, we still make trips to the burn clinic/plastic surgeon. I can't imagine what this young boy is going through, not only physically, but he is also going to carry emotional scars knowing his own peers did this to him. Reports range from 60 % to 80% of his body being covered in 2nd and 3rd degree burns, so the physical scars are going to be alot to deal with too.

I've posted videos and links of other sick things youth do to each other these days, such as school bus beatings. We are all only too familiar with school shootings and other tragedy's.

So, I guess when things like this are becoming our "norm", a family like the Duggars sure do seem strange and too good to be true to say the least.

We are all only too quick to automatically assume the worse in each other as well. The recent Balloon Boy is only one such incident. Before this family even had time to breath a sigh of relief that their child was safe at home, unharmed, accusations of a hoax were already being reported. Now, I don't know whether this was a hoax or not. Nobody knows for sure except the family themselves. But, what if it's not?? How would you feel if this was your child, and you were accused of using your child as part of a hoax? I was on message boards that were assuming the worse of the father while the boy was still lost. Foul play, not an accident.

It only seems natural to think the worse of your fellow man in the world we live in today, but does that make it right?

Why do we enjoy watching dysfunctional families falling apart more than we do a nice family, just being nice to each other and those around them? And why can't we just be relieved there are still a handful of genuinely good people out in the world instead of thinking they can't possibly be that nice or that they are turning their children into robots, forcing them to dress alike, etc...(accusations I have heard many times.) Maybe some kids today are happy to dress decently and talk English instead of the ghetto talk I often hear. Maybe some kids actually respect their parents and others in authority.

I feel bad, that I too at first thought the Duggars and others like them were weird. When we have kids who light each other on fire, beat each other on buses, can't speak in coherent sentences, are more educated in the latest hand gestures and video games than they are in common sense, good manners, and the other things that turn children into young adults and good citizens, I say we need more "weird" families like the Duggars.

I've heard people complain about the number of children they have. The parents love each other, their children and are responsibly raising them. They are all well loved and well cared for. They all seem very well educated(at home I may add!) and able to be financially independent upon leaving home, going into business for themselves(if they all follow in the oldest sons footsteps who recently married and left home) Children like these are who I hope will be our future leaders. We need more like them! Let them have as many blessings as God wants to bestow upon them with I say!

Without families like them, who do we have left to be our future leaders and decision makers? People like the ones who we often see making headlines for heinous crimes against each other? Those who are more interested in the latest fashion and music trends than raising families and being good citizens?

Too good to be true? It may seem that way in today's world, but it doesn't have to be that way. Families like the Duggars USED to be the norm, and the criminals and hoodlums were the "weird" ones. I'd like to go back to that time, but we can't. But we can make changes in our own families and attitudes to bring back a new "norm." We can start by just eating dinner together as families again, talking about things going on around us and admiring those who dare to be different by trying to be good and noble and not making heroes and idols out of those who belong in reform school and not the covers of our magazines or gracing our TVs and film screens.

Too good to be true? I sure hope not, as it is families like this one that give me hope for a brighter and better tomorrow.

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